I’m currently reading a book called Gentlewoman. I’m constantly on the verge of taking photos of the words and texting it to someone, cause I feel as though everything this man writes is real talk-100-status.
He describes a lady as being:
Well-dressed. Well-read. Well-traveled. Well-spoken.
Hi. You just defined me and many of my girlfriends. I feel there is no need for false humbleness because this is a simple definition, nonetheless I am happy to fit the bill.
I would like to request the same. I am seeking out my equal, for a man with the same checked boxes because with my high heels come high standards.
Well-dressed
My male friends are constantly pointing out other men to get a feel for my type, I have gotten shit for calling men out on how their pants fit. It's simple, if his pants don’t fit him properly: “No thank you. Pass.” ITS NOT THAT HARD (that’s what she said). I’m not asking you dress like Don Draper on the daily, I just ask that your clothes are up to date and they fit you well. I myself am a lazy dresser at times (I think “leggings = pants”), but I am never sloppy. I’m not trying to change anyone, please come with a wardrobe ready-to-go. However, if you want to go shopping we can do that too, I love the men’s section more than the women’s.
Well-read
You don’t have to quote Thoreau, Hemingway or Emerson—that would honestly intimidate the hell out of me. A man past a certain age should have books in his apartment. He should be interested enough in something that he seeks out knowledge in some shape or form. If that means he’s online reading random feeds for the first hour of every workday that is fine with me.
Well-traveled
I realize that people can only travel within their means, and for most traveling is a luxury whether that means time, money or both. But if I’m looking for my equal, well then—your passport should have at least a few stamps in it. By my next birthday I will have visited 16 countries and at least 16 states, you don’t have to keep up with those numbers, just share my wanderlust. If you have no interest in seeing the world that’s not gonna work with me.
Well-spoken
I use words like facetious, incredulous and insinuate during everyday conversation. My dictionary and thesaurus on my computers get pulled up constantly. I write this blog. I’m self-conscious that Bridget (hey girl, here’s your shout out) reads this cause she’s a writer/proof-reader. I ask that my next man has his grammar game proper and is equally articulate.
Am I asking for a lot? Probably. Definitely, but you know what?
I’m a lot.