If my NY best girlfriend was a dude trying to date me she wouldn't have gotten past the first round. She mixes up "your" vs. "you're" and I am annoyingly particular about that. However, she's one of the best people I've had the opportunity to meet out here. I'm fortunate to have met her. It's not that I judge people on that one grammatical error alone. I just figure I can use it to weed men out.
Ex-Mr is gold-standard-handsome, he has an amazing sense of style (fostered by yours truly) and he has the best sense of humor (you're welcome for these free compliments, sir, cause I'm about to explain the rest). Howeverrrrrr... He has the most volatile temperament of anyone I've ever known. If you caught him on a bad day—good luck. I've dealt with plenty of emotional baggage when it came to him. I've prevented him from getting into verbal and physical fights plenty of times. He was more than a handful, but I accepted all of the negatives because of the positives. BTW, he has more positive attributes than his appearance. I realize I just described him like a trophy husband.
So now in the world of dating I've come to figure out that there are never any real hard rules or deal breakers (unless we're talking about moral and ethical choices), cause you give and take. If you happen to find anyone you're interested enough in, you make those exceptions.
I've swiped right (that's the "heart/like" side, FYI) for guys who are smoking cigarettes in their profile pics, cause they're that attractive. I used to believe that was a definite deal breaker. I might set aside the fact that certain dudes have very questionable taste in music but I let that slide cause they manage to have pretty good conversations with me.
I keep my standards high, but obviously I have to leave room for compromise. I'm not expecting to find a perfectly packaged dude straight out of the gate and I've been told by various men that I'm not supposed to try and take one and mold him into my ideal man either.
So fine, I'll give and take.
One thing I won't compromise on: MUST GIVE GOOD D. Just so you know I have my priorities in order… Kidding.
NO, not kidding at all. Not even a little bit.