I read something on Thought Catalog today about how Instagram Envy is a real thing. Perhaps its a true struggle for some, but I'm realistic. You all fight like cats & dogs on the bad days when you're not gushing over how much you love one another on corny posts; you're actually NOT the prettiest while in sweatpants, hair ties and chillin' with no makeup on; AND you eat salad just about every lunch, just so you can consume that 2K cal burger and fries. That's all perfectly fine, I'm not hatin', cause that's me too. I was a master of painting pretty pictures in 2012. #Guilty
Anyways, I digress, because that's not the point of this post—my point is this…
I've noticed that people really try to beef up their "attractiveness points" via IG/FB. But here's what I believe: unless someone is already previously attracted to you—I'm not convinced this is an effective method. Real talk. Sorry, not sorry.
Unless I already find you good-looking / imagined us in bed / am ready to run away to Bora Bora with you—then your gym / personal chef / hobbies / *endearing quality inserted here* photos do absolutely nothing for me. Its no reflection of you as a man, I'm sure you're an amazing human being who would make an excellent boyfriend / husband / father someday, its just that spark isn't there and your social media photos will never give you that extra edge, for me—personally.
This goes for myself just as well. I'm sure that most of my photos of which I portray my wife-type attributes don't add to my attractiveness scale if you don't already care. Yes, I drink whiskey, I like sports, I have the sense of humor of a 17 year old boy AND I can cook sinigang… but if you're not already feelin' me, well then, what does it all really matter?
HOWEVER…
When the opposite has occurred, when you are actually following someone you find attractive—GOOD LUCK. You can drown in their sexy characteristics. What do you mean, he has a passport filled with stamps? He likes the new Childish Gambino album too? Did he just reference Anchorman in his caption? HE LIKES KIDS?!? HE LIKES KIDS?!?
FUCK. Wet panties everywhere.
I'm just sayin. More power to those of you who know how to use your IG/FB identities to their full potential, cause there's probably someone out there taking it all in (or not).