I’ve been putting off dating for the past 6 months, but I’ve finally woken up recently with the right attitude to try again. I think it helps knowing that no matter what—I have a plan for myself and it’s not determined by whether or not I am successful with dating or ultimately even find a partner. Although that would be fucking nice.
Be cool.
I scare off extremely easily. I am super emotionally unavailable, but I’m working on it. I’m not good with men being eager or excited out the gate. I don’t do well with physical compliments as opening statements and I will test your ability to retort my sarcastic or witty comment more than anything. In the end I just want someone who is sharp enough to hang, anything less is just boring and dry to me.
We’re not going to talk about tattoos.
I have 5. I don’t care how many you have or if you have any. BUT IF YOU DO—I HOPE THEY ARE DONE WELL. There is nothing worse than bad tattoos. Next subject.
I will scour for red flags.
In the past I’ve been really into assholes and admitted alcoholics. *SHRUGS* I enjoyed what was familiar to me. Often enough the men were attractive enough to allow shitty behavior. One man in my messages has already mentioned his “narcissistic ex” twice and this is our first conversation. It’s safe to say I don’t really feel comfortable continuing the conversation any further with him. FTR: I’d rather have you be on good terms with your Ex as long as the circumstances allow so. Maturity is a better look than pettiness. I could throw Ex-Mr under the bus a million times, but growing up with him in our 20’s made me half the woman I am today and I appreciate him for it. Ok, maybe its like 35/65%..
Chivalry should be alive and well.
I can pay for my own drinks and if I’m eating with you it’s not because I need a free meal. I’m the strong independent type who don’t need no man—obviously. However I will note if you open doors, if you make me walk on the side furthest from street traffic, if you let me order first and all of those tiny signs that show you care (or want to impress me). You can go from a decent B- to a solid A if you end the night with “Text me when you get home.” I’m a complete fucking sucker for “Text me when you get home.” It doesn’t cost anything and it is meaningful as fuck.
PS. Here’s a real-life screen cap of the red flag dude I mentioned above. I wrote this before he messaged all that. Safe to say I’ve already un-matched him. I always attract the winners. Always.
