I pre-determine how much I give you of myself when I first meet you and as we go along. I figure out how much I tell you about my personal life, if we should we be friends on FB and if at the absolute most… if I should allow you to follow me on Instagram. This is based on a variety of factors: how do I know you, do I want you to know about my past, do we work together or how will this affect any possible relationship we may have (platonic and/or romantic).

It all sounds so complicated for a woman who publicly puts herself out there with this blog, I realize that. However, I'm formulaic, I have levels.

I've had the luxury starting fresh within the past year. I've been introduced to a whole new crop of people ranging from coworkers, friends, room mates and potential dudes. Right off the bat I am not one to add people on social media immediately, unless we have a direct friend or have experienced an awesome time together I will not jump at the chance.

I treat my coworkers and room mates on a need-to-know basis. That doesn't mean I haven't developed amazing friendships from both groups, I'm just saying I've waited to add them on Facebook and I drop the "I'm actually going through a divorce right now" bomb about a week before I've left my last two apartments.

My divorce is not public knowledge in NY. It does not define me. I don't use it as a crutch to be emotional (I'm not emotional in general) and I do not need anyone's sympathy, judgement and/or assumptions. You'd never know i was going through some shit unless I told you personally and I like it that way.

Here I go again with the dualities. I'm a private girl with a public blog. I make no sense, but I hope I entertain you along the way. ;-)